There is an old saying to the effect that "it is impossible to please everyone".
And while it is an admirable endeavour to go about making sure all those you care about feel validated and satisfied with their lot in life, taken to excess this can cause resentment and backfire.
If people start thinking that they are just one of a mass number of people who's interests you accommodate meticulously, there is nothing special in it for them and they may end up taking offence.
It's a bit like the toddler who turns to point at their daddy and utters their first magic word - "Papa" - only to then point to the postman, then the bus driver, and says the same to them! 😆 THE MAGIC IS LOST!
That is not to say that best efforts should not be made to ensure people receive due recognition and validation from you.
But, while the desire to be (and remain) popular, can be extremely alluring, try not to do it so much that it appears mechanical or becomes taken for granted, because precedents, once set, are difficult to move away from, even when you have no option but to do so. And this can be very stressful.
Special occasions or achievements such as birthdays and anniversaries are great opportunities to make a special fuss of someone, quite rightly.
But on a day to day basis, with so much to personally manage, it's important to be realistic with the time that we can give to others without prejudicing ourselves, and to equally ensure that enough focus is placed on our own basic wellness needs.
After all, what would all the people who rely on us do if we were to burn 🔥 out as a result of being overburdened, over committed or overwhelmed??
And how would we, or they, feel about them having to look after us if that were to happen??!! 🤔
So difficult though it can be, sometimes the best thing we can do to enable ourselves to look after others the way we may wish to, is to prioritise our own needs first!
xxx - BIG BALANCED ❤️ - xxx