We can't all get on with everybody else all the time.
Character, value, personality and outlook differences can make it seem inconceivable that we will ever get on with certain people in our personal, social or professional circle.
But in some cases, we have to get beyond this because, for example, we work with the individual or they are an extended family member.
This can be a source of ongoing anxiety, but the following simple tips and techniques might help:-
● almost everyone has something, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, in common; whether it be an interest, a defined objective, the best interests of a third party, and so on.
Try to identify what this is then make it an anchor point of reference to return back to if the relationship becomes challenging in order to refocus energy positively
● accept and embrace the fact that you are going to have to make a continuous effort for the relationship to operate to the level it has to.
And bear in mind that supposed sworn enemies can often become great friends precisely because of their differences, so don't rule this out.
Instead, recognise that differences create alternate viewpoints that can be learned from.
And for useful techniques on persuasion, see our post entitled "Learn to "sell well" to prosper"
● appreciate that nobody is perfect and that a display of weakness can be a powerful catalyst that brings people closer together - see our posts entitled "Break Time Quickie : Open the Door to Imperfection – it can be Liberating as well as Stressbusting™", ""A conjurer is less intimidating once you can see through their distractions"" and ""Sorry (needn't!) be the Hardest Word""
● engage in the habits explained in our post "Learn to read body language to reduce anxiety & prosper", to help better understand meaning behind words and gestures.
And try to deploy language which is conciliatory rather than incendiary - our post entitled "Extend your Vocabulary to Stressbust™" explains the importance of this
● avoid paranoia at all costs - just because 2 people do not get on doesn't mean one is permanently out to undermine the other.
Our posts entitled "Break Time Quickie - Even wild flowers can blossom" explains how even the most unlikely of people can be turned around in due course.
And finally, note that we do not have to particularly like a person to respect them and act respectfully to them - this shows great strength of character which in the long term will be appreciated.
Users who found this post useful may also benefit from visiting our links at:-
"Modes of Questioning to Stressbust™ for Loved Ones"
"Break Time Quickie: StressBust™ by learning from the mistakes of others as well as your own"
"Stressbusting™ Lessons from Finland - “The Happiest Nation on Earth”"