Have you ever met someone who seems to have the "gift of the gab; an answer for everything; appears to ooze charm with sophistication and a permanent smile so effortlessly; is the life and soul of every event; seemingly cannot put a foot wrong?
Well, in life, there is no such person.
So if you ever feel belittled or inadequate as a result of being around such a person, bear in mind that, while they may make life appear as if its a walk in the park, behind the scenes it is probably taking a massive, draining amount of their emotional as well as physical time and energy to maintain a facade of permanent equilibrium.
Take even world renowned comedians as an example; anyone would think they were abundantly happy, clever, wordly wise individuals sharing their views of the universe in a hilarious fashion with side splitting effects for huge reward; commentators on our time, if you will.
Yet the incidence of depression in comedians is reported as being as high as any other profession! The comedy and the act of it may be merely a highly successful cover for their underlying personal securities.
The unflinching performance of people such as this, whether in a professional or personal environment, is regularly designed to ensure they never have to appear weak or apologise for any shortcoming, when (as per our post so entitled) "Sorry 'needn't' be the hardest word" and is certainly nothing to be afraid of.
To identify what is essentially a performance being delivered, it is important not to merely see what these people are doing and accept it or feel alienated by it, but rather to carefully observe the conduct and ask yourself how and why they feel the need to be perceived by others as the embodiment of perfection - see our posts entitled "Learn to "Observe" as opposed to merely "See" to Stressbust™ efficiently" and "Learn to read body language to reduce anxiety & prosper".
Consider what their behaviour is seeking to detract from - try to get behind their illusion by identifying what exactly they hope to create a distraction from.
Is it something in their background that might explain it? Are they under too much pressure in some area of their lives? Do they have a fear of losing something or someone? Are they concerned they may be isolated or become unwanted if they show weakness? And so on and so forth.
Because it may be that beneath the polished veneer, if and when the cracks finally and inevitably start to show (as they will in the end as nobody can maintain a performance forever), these people might transpire to need not your judgement, but rather your care, education and support, more than any other people you know.
For further info relevant to this, please see our posts entitled:-
"Break Time Quickie : Open the Door to Imperfection – it can be Liberating as well as Stressbusting™"
"Modes of Questioning to Stressbust™ for Loved Ones"
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